Being a Leader

It's seriously difficult to be in charge of a group of people no matter how big or diverse the group is. I remember being in charge of a few groups and when things went wrong, it was hard to find a way to ease tension or find the right way to do something. Whenever I hit a wall, I like to take a walk and carefully find a way to diffuse a situation.
Recently, I've been reading the National Bestseller, "Lean In" and I'm loving it. This quote and tidbit I like are, "Miss-communication is a two way street," Gender roles should be 50 - 50.  What she meant by the latter is that couples should do half the housework and be  half a bread winner. I like that idea. I never liked the idea of giving up my passion of writing or my joy of working outside the home when I get married.
I have a love/hate relationship with being a leader. It's fun to be in charge because I get to use my creative ways and when the group is a passion or like a family, hopefully both.
I admire people who can put others in their place without anger or being mean. Granted, sometimes you need to be forceful to get the point across. Many times I tend to keep my mouth shut instead of standing up to bullies or people who just don't see all that I'm doing for them.