On last night's episode of Supergirl, at the beginning of the episode Ms. Grant told Kara "I will make your life hell." "It's worth it. Family always is," was her answer. This conversation got me thinking about issues in general that have happened between my parents and I or my sister and I. The most recent one being a huge disagreement about a life changing decision. Even though I've walked away angry, yelled at her or seriously felt like hitting her, she's still my sister and forever will be. I want her to be happy, but not at the expense of ruining her life.
Whether it's swallowing pride, apologizing like Cat Grant had to do with her son Adam or letting someone you care about face the consequences and pray they find their way back, having a real relationship with family is important. I never want to tell someone that I haven't spoken to my father in five years. Never. There are days where I feel like distancing myself but I always find myself missing their sense of humor or ability to erase tears. Family is something one should fight for and always put before others.
So in conclusion, I agree that family is worth every effort to keep the peace because friends come and go and relationships go south, but you will always have family to count on. I hope everyone has or will have that confidence. I realize we don't live in a perfect world and adults do stupid things, but if you do have family whether they are in the same town or not, do your best to keep on loving them and doing whatever it takes to keep you all together.
Tuesday, January 26, 2016
Friday, January 22, 2016
Modesty Shouldn't Be A Problem
I was scrolling through Facebook this morning and found this article. My first reaction was "WHAT IN THE WORLD IS WRONG WITH THIS WORLD?!?!"
In my family growing up, modesty has always been something to strive for. Never a bad thing, but instead away to help others perceive us in a positive light. Now, I do see the author's point in not telling someone they are a "slut" since that word isn't nice to say regardless of what we think. The same is true in saying that something someone is wearing is "boring" just because it's doesn't show enough. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be modest. If anything, it shows the world a different way to live ( in my opinion, better).
We live in a society that says that no one is wrong and everyone should be able to live the way they should. Why does it seem to only work for those who are following the majority opinion? The ones whose mindset is like most of America or the world? When someone decides to do something different, all of a sudden it's wrong? There are many instances I see this happening, whether it's an opinion on a social issue or the choice not to have sex on the first date. No one be ashamed of wearing clothes that aren't skin tight nor for being pro-life.
At the end of this article, the author mentions that we should talk about what we wear more and I agree. I've come to realize the more we don't talk, the more we tend to generalize and assume. If someone never gets the courage to talk to someone who is from a different country such as Thailand or maybe Greece, that person will never truly learn outside of the classroom. One of things I love about dating men from other countries is how my world gets bigger by hearing their stories. Sometimes they are sad, but many times they are enlightening and leave me wanting to know more. We should definitely discuss why we wear what we wear. Many Muslims wear a piece of their culture in America because that's their identity and part of life. If I don't want to show my breasts to the world, I have the right to that. Personally, I believe they shouldn't be shown to the world, but everyone has a right to do what they want to do. End of story.
In my family growing up, modesty has always been something to strive for. Never a bad thing, but instead away to help others perceive us in a positive light. Now, I do see the author's point in not telling someone they are a "slut" since that word isn't nice to say regardless of what we think. The same is true in saying that something someone is wearing is "boring" just because it's doesn't show enough. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be modest. If anything, it shows the world a different way to live ( in my opinion, better).
We live in a society that says that no one is wrong and everyone should be able to live the way they should. Why does it seem to only work for those who are following the majority opinion? The ones whose mindset is like most of America or the world? When someone decides to do something different, all of a sudden it's wrong? There are many instances I see this happening, whether it's an opinion on a social issue or the choice not to have sex on the first date. No one be ashamed of wearing clothes that aren't skin tight nor for being pro-life.
At the end of this article, the author mentions that we should talk about what we wear more and I agree. I've come to realize the more we don't talk, the more we tend to generalize and assume. If someone never gets the courage to talk to someone who is from a different country such as Thailand or maybe Greece, that person will never truly learn outside of the classroom. One of things I love about dating men from other countries is how my world gets bigger by hearing their stories. Sometimes they are sad, but many times they are enlightening and leave me wanting to know more. We should definitely discuss why we wear what we wear. Many Muslims wear a piece of their culture in America because that's their identity and part of life. If I don't want to show my breasts to the world, I have the right to that. Personally, I believe they shouldn't be shown to the world, but everyone has a right to do what they want to do. End of story.
Tuesday, January 19, 2016
Bottling Things Up
In last night's episode of Supergirl, Winn's dad breaks out of jail in order to have him kill his enemy/former boss all because the man had stolen his toy designs. The reason that his dad was in jail in the first place was because he had sent a teddy bear with a bomb inside to his office. Unfortunately, instead of it reaching the boss, the assistant had opened the package which resulting in her death and five others. Now 15 years later, instead of admitting that it was his own fault that he was sent to jail, he blames the boss for missing out on his son's life. It wasn't the boss's fault that he missed out on being a father, it was his own fault unfortunately, he had failed to put things in proper perspective.
We as humans tend to blame everyone but the right person when we get into trouble. When a policeman arrests someone, very often the friends and family scream at the policeman saying something along the lines of, "Why are you doing this to my son!?" This the yelling should be turned towards the person who committed the crime, "What did you do to deserve this punishment?"
The topic I really want to discuss today is how we bottle things up. Winn, towards the end of the episode, says "I don't want to keep things bottled up because then I might explode." I paused for a second to reflect on my own life. How often did I keep things to myself instead of standing up? How many times have I wanted to tell someone how I really felt, but instead kept quiet out of fear? Winn kissed Kara because he has liked her for years but was afraid. He didn't want to do that anymore. Sadly, Kara and Winn's friendship is now in jeopardy unless both of them acknowledge their feelings and move forward together. I would hate to see them "break up" and not be friends anymore.
Growing up, I bottled things up a lot. There were people I wanted to punch in the face, but didn't have the courage. There were times when I wanted to cry, but pushed it down. Granted, I'd probably would have gotten suspended a lot if I had given in to most of my feelings back then. At the same time, maybe it wouldn't have taken me so long to let go of the anger I had towards some individuals who bullied me.
In conclusion, my take away from this episode is to face my fears as well as let others know how I feel about what they've said or done to me sooner rather than later. I've slowly gotten better at it, though it still scares the heck out of me every time; however I'm not giving up.
We as humans tend to blame everyone but the right person when we get into trouble. When a policeman arrests someone, very often the friends and family scream at the policeman saying something along the lines of, "Why are you doing this to my son!?" This the yelling should be turned towards the person who committed the crime, "What did you do to deserve this punishment?"
The topic I really want to discuss today is how we bottle things up. Winn, towards the end of the episode, says "I don't want to keep things bottled up because then I might explode." I paused for a second to reflect on my own life. How often did I keep things to myself instead of standing up? How many times have I wanted to tell someone how I really felt, but instead kept quiet out of fear? Winn kissed Kara because he has liked her for years but was afraid. He didn't want to do that anymore. Sadly, Kara and Winn's friendship is now in jeopardy unless both of them acknowledge their feelings and move forward together. I would hate to see them "break up" and not be friends anymore.
Growing up, I bottled things up a lot. There were people I wanted to punch in the face, but didn't have the courage. There were times when I wanted to cry, but pushed it down. Granted, I'd probably would have gotten suspended a lot if I had given in to most of my feelings back then. At the same time, maybe it wouldn't have taken me so long to let go of the anger I had towards some individuals who bullied me.
In conclusion, my take away from this episode is to face my fears as well as let others know how I feel about what they've said or done to me sooner rather than later. I've slowly gotten better at it, though it still scares the heck out of me every time; however I'm not giving up.
Tuesday, January 12, 2016
Just Because Your Choices Are Different Doesn't Mean They Are Wrong
"Never trust a man who doesn't drink because he's probably the self-righteous type who thinks he knows right from wrong all the time." This was spoken in a Supergirl episode a few weeks ago that I wanted to address.
Honestly, I don't understand this logic. Do you? What makes anyone think that the decision not to drink would mean that that person is self-righteous? It's like when someone gets mad about a choice to not swear. Or a choice not to have sex. It's just that, a choice. No one is telling you that you have to make the same choice. Who's forcing you to follow their lifestyle? Respect, though, should be shown.
Personally, when someone gets upset about things like this I begin to wonder if there is an underlying reason as to why. Maybe the cause for the emotion runs deep. Maybe they feel convicted. If that's the case, then maybe that person needs to think about their own choices. Are the choices you're making hurting others? Are they mean? Do they hurt you or someone else physically or emotionally?
The choices I make are to please God and gradually turn me into a better person. Following the crowd hasn't had much appeal to me for awhile now. Sure, I did things to get attention or to prove myself to be cool, but when I realized that what truly matters is how I view myself, my perspective and in turn, my choices changed.
So in conclusion, judging a person based on what they don't do is just as bad as judging someone based on what they look like or a religion they follow. We are free to make choices, you and me.
Honestly, I don't understand this logic. Do you? What makes anyone think that the decision not to drink would mean that that person is self-righteous? It's like when someone gets mad about a choice to not swear. Or a choice not to have sex. It's just that, a choice. No one is telling you that you have to make the same choice. Who's forcing you to follow their lifestyle? Respect, though, should be shown.
Personally, when someone gets upset about things like this I begin to wonder if there is an underlying reason as to why. Maybe the cause for the emotion runs deep. Maybe they feel convicted. If that's the case, then maybe that person needs to think about their own choices. Are the choices you're making hurting others? Are they mean? Do they hurt you or someone else physically or emotionally?
The choices I make are to please God and gradually turn me into a better person. Following the crowd hasn't had much appeal to me for awhile now. Sure, I did things to get attention or to prove myself to be cool, but when I realized that what truly matters is how I view myself, my perspective and in turn, my choices changed.
So in conclusion, judging a person based on what they don't do is just as bad as judging someone based on what they look like or a religion they follow. We are free to make choices, you and me.
Tuesday, January 5, 2016
Faith
When General Lane asked Supergirl, "How do you know that General Non and his army won't betray you?" Supergirl answered with, "I don't, but I have faith." What an example!
After being back-stabbed and ignored by so many growing up, I found faith to be hard to find. Honestly, I don't have faith in a lot people but a select few. Even those who I had had faith in before have broken my trust and ruined what good we had. It takes a strong person to put that behind them and open up their hearts again. People who knew my past, where I came from and what I had been through were the ones who had hurt me the most. However, the struggle remains as I find faith again. I lose it, I gain it and I lose it again. Constant battle. I'm still timid when I meet others, especially ones who make an effort to get to know me, the real me. I'm cautious and wary of others. It's not until I feel 80% comfortable that I come out of my shell, just a little. Looking back, I've improved on how I handle meeting new people though, I still hold back everything I can until it feels right.
Faith is hard to hold onto never mind find, but one must embrace it and use it daily. Without faith, you end up a hermit trapped. That is not what God intended for us. We are created with emotions that crave others. I love the friends that I have and hope to continue building relationships as well as building myself. It's when you are happy with who you are is when faith starts to grow and you are able to build others up. :D
After being back-stabbed and ignored by so many growing up, I found faith to be hard to find. Honestly, I don't have faith in a lot people but a select few. Even those who I had had faith in before have broken my trust and ruined what good we had. It takes a strong person to put that behind them and open up their hearts again. People who knew my past, where I came from and what I had been through were the ones who had hurt me the most. However, the struggle remains as I find faith again. I lose it, I gain it and I lose it again. Constant battle. I'm still timid when I meet others, especially ones who make an effort to get to know me, the real me. I'm cautious and wary of others. It's not until I feel 80% comfortable that I come out of my shell, just a little. Looking back, I've improved on how I handle meeting new people though, I still hold back everything I can until it feels right.
Faith is hard to hold onto never mind find, but one must embrace it and use it daily. Without faith, you end up a hermit trapped. That is not what God intended for us. We are created with emotions that crave others. I love the friends that I have and hope to continue building relationships as well as building myself. It's when you are happy with who you are is when faith starts to grow and you are able to build others up. :D
Friday, January 1, 2016
Another New Year Begins....What's Different This Time?
2016 is upon us and this is the time where we reflect and look within to make changes so that our future is better. To start off, 2015 had its ups and downs but I do not regret the major decisions I made such as leaving CT and moving to CO or taking the job at Aspen Camp. I loved my time there even when there were major annoyances. I had been wanting to move out on my own for quite some time, so moving away from the place I grew up to start over was definitely the right move. I feel more than ready to embark on my own and see what God has in store for me.
As much as I am grateful for what my parents have been to me and have down for me growing up, there comes a time where a child must leave. So being in CO has opened many possibilities and new friendships have been forged. I know that there will be many more.
Now as 2016 starts my desire is to find a place of work that allows me to be free to be me and help me grow in my writing. I'm still pursuing my dream of being a NY Times Bestseller and I refuse to give up on that. In 2015, I have published a short story inspired by a dear friend of mine and a research paper I co-authored with fellow Ithaca College classmates and professors.I know as I continue to write and send it to publishers I will be able to make my dream come true.
To make my 2016 better than my 2015, I want to be the friend I've always wanted, be the person I look up to and also be the one to speak my mind especially when something bothers me. For too long I've let people take an axe to my heart; no more. I will demand respect for my race, my disability and myself. Things are going to change for the better this year.
Have a Happy New Year!!!!!!!!
As much as I am grateful for what my parents have been to me and have down for me growing up, there comes a time where a child must leave. So being in CO has opened many possibilities and new friendships have been forged. I know that there will be many more.
Now as 2016 starts my desire is to find a place of work that allows me to be free to be me and help me grow in my writing. I'm still pursuing my dream of being a NY Times Bestseller and I refuse to give up on that. In 2015, I have published a short story inspired by a dear friend of mine and a research paper I co-authored with fellow Ithaca College classmates and professors.I know as I continue to write and send it to publishers I will be able to make my dream come true.
To make my 2016 better than my 2015, I want to be the friend I've always wanted, be the person I look up to and also be the one to speak my mind especially when something bothers me. For too long I've let people take an axe to my heart; no more. I will demand respect for my race, my disability and myself. Things are going to change for the better this year.
Have a Happy New Year!!!!!!!!
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