Don't Be a Face, Be a Force

Funny how in the span of two weeks, I've found quotes that spoke to me from the popular TV show NCIS: LA. Here is another one said by Kensi Blye, "Don't be a face, be a force." Basically, she was trying to convince her "client" be more than what she was seeing.

In the real world, how does that translate to our ordinary less than stellar lives? I believe each of us has a story. We were created for a reason, a specific reason. So for me when thinking about being a force not just a face, it means to be more than what's on the surface.

For years, I didn't let the real me surface just like Kensi's "client." (You'll see what I mean when you watch the episode). She had a dark past that she felt she needed to hide both for her safety and for her career as a model. In reality, who you are, your past included, is what makes you who you are. Without it, you'd be a weaker version of you. This wasn't easy for me by far! However, I have become a better girlfriend as well as a friend because of some of the things I went through.

Being more than just a face can be difficult especially when you've been severely hurt in the past, but it's way better than being superficial. You will never create meaning relationships that way. A force gives you the possibility of changing someone else's life as well. Being willing to put yourself out there, be in someone else's shoes, be sympathetic and empathetic can go a long way. Sometimes just sitting by the phone isn't enough, you have to physically be there, constantly offer to take their mind off the issue.

So be a force, not just a pretty face. You'll feel better and so will others around you. :)