Playing the Blame Game

This has been on my mind and heart for the past month or so. Social media is blowing up every two seconds about some scandal there or a conspiracy over there or a catastrophe here. A common thread I'm seeing through all this is blaming. Ever since Adam blamed Eve for his disobedience, humans have the tendency to blame each other for their actions. You know that phrase, "You reap what you sow"? Well, that statement continues to be true at every level.

1) If my boyfriend sleeps with my best friend while I'm away on vacation. Whose fault is that? Is it mine because I wasn't with my boyfriend at the time? It is right for my boyfriend to blame me for his act of defiance or whatever he chooses to call it?

2) If my husband leaves me for a prettier woman, is it my fault because I hadn't tried harder to be prettier?

3) If someone steals pharmaceuticals because the law has priced the item too high for them to be able to afford, who's fault is that?

4) If a person says, "I'm sorry, but I can't support your lifestyle/religious decision" and the person who feels wronged shoots the other person, who's at fault?

5) If a man thinks illicit thoughts about a woman because of how she is dressed, whose fault is it?

I could go on and on but I think I've touched on the most common ones I hear. We each, myself included, need to take a hard look at our actions and the motivation behind them. We as humans hate to be wrong, but sometimes we are wrong and we need to accept as well as change our attitude. Is it easy? NOPE! Will it take time? YES!

In each scenario the first person mentioned, with the exception of the last two, is the person who is wrong. In the fourth, the person who did the shooting is the one who made the wrong decision. Why? The first person has a right to an opinion. It is not right for the second person to destroy a person's life because of of it. In the fifth, it's both. Why? It's the man's duty to be mindful of what enters his mind. It's up to him not to dwell on dirty thoughts about a woman he sees. It's also the woman's duty to be mindful about what she wears. What a woman wears determines how a man treats them and also what kind of man she is trying to attract. Men are wired to desire what they see for the most part. Women are wired to desire what they feel for the most part. Each person needs to be aware of how they are perceived and dress accordingly. Otherwise, women will get attention they weren't looking for and men will fall into traps they didn't want to fall into.

Everyone is accountable for their actions. It's up to each of us to stop blaming each other and instead find ways to avoid the situation altogether. :)