Settling

We've all been told "never settle" whether it's a boyfriend, a job or especially a spouse. I've come to the realization that I have no idea what settling would be in many instances. With a boyfriend, I definitely think settling would be letting someone walk all over me, call me names or treat me with disrespect. But I'm wondering if there is more to it than that.

In the case of a job, in my mind settling would be writing for a newspaper/magazine who has themes that I don't agree with or continually asks me to write stories I have either zero interest in writing or to go even further write about a topic I'm uncomfortable with. I already have a "list" of kinds of companies I won't work for or jobs I won't apply for simply because I don't have the passion for the topic like a vegan magazine for example. Some job listings that I find aren't my style because it involves technical writing which I already know I don't like. In my mind, why relocate for a job that I have no passion for? This would be settling.

The other side of this is the fact that I know I won't get my dream job the first time around and maybe not even the second, but my first shouldn't be something I hate, right? It should be fun, interesting, a position I can build upon, learn from, be a stepping stone in a direction I'm thinking of going in. Not stoic or of little interest to be before I even write the cover letter. When writing those, employers want to see passion right? If you have no passion for the company or the position, why apply?

Spouse is a whole nother topic and I'm sure we each have a list of "must haves" and "must not haves"! Maturity is a big one since I keep winding up with immature boyfriends. Granted, girls mature faster than boys so even at 22, they can be.....irritating. So maybe immature is a harsh word for them, but in some areas I believe we all need to grow up.

I believe that settling is never a good thing and that we all should make lists of what we shouldn't setting for.