Everyone has their own version of what love is or what love means to them. It's alright to have different ways to want to be loved or for others to show love to you. That is what they call "love languages." One way I know for sure someone loves me and cares for me is when the person gives me a "just because" present. Honestly, it could be anything from my favorite candy to a magnet of a puppy. Both of which I've gotten before. Another way is when someone tells me the truth even when it's hard for them to admit or for me to hear. This doesn't happen very often.
What people don't realize is that real love includes sacrifice. I don't mean killing an animal like in Biblical times. What I mean is putting the person's feelings before your own. For instance, I love love love NCIS, Rookie Blue, Person of Interest, Motive and the like. Some people don't like those types of shows. If my boyfriend or best friend wants to watch NASCAR or some sappy teary chick flick, if I truly love them I will set aside my hatred for such things and watch it with them. Now this doesn't mean I have to watch these things all the time and neither should the other. Together, we have to agree to sacrifice every so often. Balance.
Another thing I feel is important before breathing the word "love" especially out loud is making sure the other feels comfortable to be vulnerable. This gets tricky. No one likes to be vulnerable. I know I don't. In fact, I hate it. Everytime I take a risk like this, I get burned. I realized why though. I was vulnerable to the wrong people, those who didn't really love me or know how to love truly. So now, I take my time in deciding if this person I think I love is worth the risk.
So I encourage you to think before declaring your love for someone, before telling someone you are their best friend. It hurts when you realize all this time that person never really loved you, only pretended. That's painful. Love is a beautiful thing so don't say it till you mean it.
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