Have I mentioned how much I love this new show Supergirl? It's clean AND uplifting and filled with little gold mines of encouragement and lessons. Kind of reminds me of how The Cosby Show makes me feel. Instead of feeling disgusted or annoyed like many 21st century TV shows, I smile and genuinely laugh.
Which leads me to this nugget I found that Winn said to Siobhan when she was feeling mad at Kara for her end of employment at Catco Media. "Once you have a goal, no one is going to stop you from getting it." He also mentioned that powerful people have setbacks and that what all this is. It's not the end of the world, but rather a way to reflect and change course.
This conversation made me think about my own life. I have many personal and professional goals. One of which includes writing a NY Times Bestseller. I would love nothing more than to be in the ranks with my fellow favorite authors. Creating stories has always been a passion and I can't think of anything else that makes me happier. It's because of how I feel, that I refuse to give up. No matter how many times people tell me I'm not good enough for them to take a chance on me. Writers, artists, singers are probably the ones who get the highest number of rejections. The ones who go far and achieve their dreams are the ones who never give up. I want to be one of them.
Later, Kara says in her interview with Cat Grant, "I just want to be useful. To somebody. I want to be worthwhile." I've felt like that every time I send in a resume or write a synopsis to a publishing company. Sometimes I feel like God has shown me my purpose in life and then one bad call after another happens and I'm left feeling lost again. I feel so sure I know my place in this world. Every person on this planet, I believe, was given an invisible road map, but it only becomes visible if you trust God with the future. While we'd rather he'd show us the destination, we have to be patient (grrr, I know) in order to figure out which way to go.
However, side note, do not do what Siobhan attempted later in the episode. Going after what you want should include dignity and respect for those around and above you.
Saturday, March 26, 2016
Thursday, March 17, 2016
More Than One Side
In this week's episode of Supergirl, a version of Kryptonite changed her demeanor to the point where she hurt others both strangers and those close to her with actions and harsh words. While her new outward personality held some truth, it wasn't right to bring others down.
This got me thinking as to how often we suppress our feelings in order to make someone else happy. In the movie 27 Dresses, Jane kept saying "Yes" to planning other people's weddings and rehearsal dinners, even if it meant up-heaving her own life. Sometimes we should say "No" or say what's truly on our minds but sometimes, it's better to just keep the peace. The hard part is figuring out the difference.
Another truth that came to mind during this episode is the fact that we have different sides to us. There are times when our not so good side comes out. It's human and I'll always appreciate the fact that the friends I still have continue to love me despite those times. Stress eats us up or fear tears us down. It's those who never stop believing in us or stop being in our lives that makes all the difference. Supergirl has that support system, which helped her get back to her normal self.
I felt that it was truly unfair for Cat to tell the world that Supergirl couldn't be trusted. On one hand I can understand that because she's National City's hero and the public needed to know she's unstable, but at the same time I felt that the message she sent on TV was a bit harsh. Everyone has bad days as Cat pointed out, but as a hero Supergirl has to be on her "A" game all the time. In our reality, we treat our presidents and official leaders this way. They are supposed to be perfect, be all knowing and help everyone see justice, yet they are still human. Sometimes they fail. Sometimes they say things they shouldn't. Should that be a reason why we discredit them? Should that be a reason for pushing for impeachment? No. I've been in a position of leadership and there are moments I wish I could go back and re-word a sentence or speak up instead of being silent. It's hard to be in charge. It comes with so much pressure. I wish everyone could understand/acknowledge that and be more mindful of who we are inside. A person who will make mistakes.
Supergirl has done a lot to the help the people of National City and I hope she will be able to win back their trust as the show goes on. I absolutely love the fact that Cat is again on her side.
This got me thinking as to how often we suppress our feelings in order to make someone else happy. In the movie 27 Dresses, Jane kept saying "Yes" to planning other people's weddings and rehearsal dinners, even if it meant up-heaving her own life. Sometimes we should say "No" or say what's truly on our minds but sometimes, it's better to just keep the peace. The hard part is figuring out the difference.
Another truth that came to mind during this episode is the fact that we have different sides to us. There are times when our not so good side comes out. It's human and I'll always appreciate the fact that the friends I still have continue to love me despite those times. Stress eats us up or fear tears us down. It's those who never stop believing in us or stop being in our lives that makes all the difference. Supergirl has that support system, which helped her get back to her normal self.
I felt that it was truly unfair for Cat to tell the world that Supergirl couldn't be trusted. On one hand I can understand that because she's National City's hero and the public needed to know she's unstable, but at the same time I felt that the message she sent on TV was a bit harsh. Everyone has bad days as Cat pointed out, but as a hero Supergirl has to be on her "A" game all the time. In our reality, we treat our presidents and official leaders this way. They are supposed to be perfect, be all knowing and help everyone see justice, yet they are still human. Sometimes they fail. Sometimes they say things they shouldn't. Should that be a reason why we discredit them? Should that be a reason for pushing for impeachment? No. I've been in a position of leadership and there are moments I wish I could go back and re-word a sentence or speak up instead of being silent. It's hard to be in charge. It comes with so much pressure. I wish everyone could understand/acknowledge that and be more mindful of who we are inside. A person who will make mistakes.
Supergirl has done a lot to the help the people of National City and I hope she will be able to win back their trust as the show goes on. I absolutely love the fact that Cat is again on her side.
Wednesday, March 2, 2016
People Want to Care
In this week's Supergirl episode Siobhan, the new assistant to Cat, shares a story about her father cheating on her mother. Unfortunately, she saw him being unfaithful with his assistant one day. He said he was sorry but he really wasn't for he didn't stop hurting his daughter.
The previous episode revealed her as a mean girl from the start. This conversation she had with Winn told us that there was more to her than what she chose to expose. It got me thinking about those I know who have chosen to hide behind a mask. Most of them were in high school and I never became friends with them because I didn't want to be around their toxicity. Who knows why they were mean to everyone or behaved the way they did. Maybe they had a harsh childhood. Maybe their parents were mean to them. Regardless of the reason behind their masks, there is no right reason to be mean to others. However, if we all gave people the benefit of the doubt first rather than ignoring them, maybe things would be different.
Looking at myself growing up, I tried to hide who I truly was because I was tired of being rejected. I always wanted to be someone else instead of who I was created to be. I walked around hiding who I really was and my opinions because I thought no one cared to know the real me. The people who truly did, pre-college especially, are the ones I will never forget. It was while in college that I realized that being different isn't a bad thing and having a sad past doesn't define me. Letting people in and letting them care was hard, but worth it. Now, I have people I can count on and share my true feelings with and I wouldn't trade those relationships for a billion dollars.
By the end of the episode, Winn shares his story and surprisingly Siobhan kisses him. Did she really understand what he was trying to tell her about people wanting to care if she let them....who knows. The point is that Winn tried to show that truth to her. Not everyone is out there to break hearts and create havoc. We were created to crave human interaction and love. We need that to survive.
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The previous episode revealed her as a mean girl from the start. This conversation she had with Winn told us that there was more to her than what she chose to expose. It got me thinking about those I know who have chosen to hide behind a mask. Most of them were in high school and I never became friends with them because I didn't want to be around their toxicity. Who knows why they were mean to everyone or behaved the way they did. Maybe they had a harsh childhood. Maybe their parents were mean to them. Regardless of the reason behind their masks, there is no right reason to be mean to others. However, if we all gave people the benefit of the doubt first rather than ignoring them, maybe things would be different.
Looking at myself growing up, I tried to hide who I truly was because I was tired of being rejected. I always wanted to be someone else instead of who I was created to be. I walked around hiding who I really was and my opinions because I thought no one cared to know the real me. The people who truly did, pre-college especially, are the ones I will never forget. It was while in college that I realized that being different isn't a bad thing and having a sad past doesn't define me. Letting people in and letting them care was hard, but worth it. Now, I have people I can count on and share my true feelings with and I wouldn't trade those relationships for a billion dollars.
By the end of the episode, Winn shares his story and surprisingly Siobhan kisses him. Did she really understand what he was trying to tell her about people wanting to care if she let them....who knows. The point is that Winn tried to show that truth to her. Not everyone is out there to break hearts and create havoc. We were created to crave human interaction and love. We need that to survive.
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Wednesday, February 24, 2016
Be Better Than Your Enemy
This week's Supergirl episode was about her being forced to realize that her idea of justice wasn't right. Even though she is not human, she had to do what's right for a human prisoner. Maxwell Lord, I think we can all agree, is a horrible excuse for a human being. He has no concept of right vs wrong and no shame. He could care less about another person's life and feelings. He lies, steals and kills without a second thought. He has even tried to kill Supergirl on occasion. However, regardless of how he treats others he, deserves the same treatment of justice as anyone else who has done wrong.
Now, most of us aren't a part of the judicial or supreme court system on a daily basis, but the same principles apply. The bullies I've encountered over the years probably deserve the same pain I experienced. However, it is not my place to give it. In order to be better than my enemies, I have to rise above my anger and the hurt I feel. I can't let them win by going down to their level. Instead, I remove myself from them and focus on overcoming my fears, insecurities and helplessness. I don't have to be friends with them and trust me, it's not something I'm striving for. At the same time, I should respect the fact that they are human.
Being better than your enemy is difficult. Supergirl found it hard too. After realizing that she wasn't much better than Maxwell Lord by imprisoning him without trial never-mind kidnapping him, she let him go. She hopes, as do I, that he won't continue to plan her demise or tell the world who she really is. Letting him go was the right thing to do and we shall see if he repays her with kindness or tries to overpower her, yet again.
Now, most of us aren't a part of the judicial or supreme court system on a daily basis, but the same principles apply. The bullies I've encountered over the years probably deserve the same pain I experienced. However, it is not my place to give it. In order to be better than my enemies, I have to rise above my anger and the hurt I feel. I can't let them win by going down to their level. Instead, I remove myself from them and focus on overcoming my fears, insecurities and helplessness. I don't have to be friends with them and trust me, it's not something I'm striving for. At the same time, I should respect the fact that they are human.
Being better than your enemy is difficult. Supergirl found it hard too. After realizing that she wasn't much better than Maxwell Lord by imprisoning him without trial never-mind kidnapping him, she let him go. She hopes, as do I, that he won't continue to plan her demise or tell the world who she really is. Letting him go was the right thing to do and we shall see if he repays her with kindness or tries to overpower her, yet again.
Wednesday, February 3, 2016
Respect vs. Trust
Recently, I had a discussion on LinkedIn about respect and whether it not is should be earned or given. In light of the elections coming up and the individual candidates, I've found it appalling that people abuse the "I have a right to share my opinion" so negatively. Not only on social media, but also face to face we mock and tear down with thoughtless words towards people we don't like. I feel that that is showing disrespect. The criteria for respect shouldn't be based on whether you agree with what's been said, but rather because they are a human being.
I deserve respect just as much as a doctor, our president or your neighbor. Personally, I feel that when someone is in a position of authority or has gone to school studying a subject I don't know much about, I should respect them because of their knowledge. They don't have to earn respect for me to give it. I may not agree with everything that President Obama has done. I may not like some of my professors in college. I may not understand why my parents forced me to stay at a school they knew I hated. However, because they are in a place of authority, they should have respect. If you can't find it in your heart to respect the person, at the very least, respect the position. We 20 somethings don't understand the stress of what being a country leader brings. We don't understand what it takes to be in charge of a college campus. We have no idea what it's like to raise a teenager much less counsel someone our own age. There's a lot we don't know.
Trust on the other hand should be earned. If I handed out trust like I handed out respect, my soul and spirit would have been beaten severely; more so that it has already been. If I totaled my dad's car, I don't expect him to just hand me the keys to his new one. If a friend kissed my boyfriend, I'm not going to suggest we go bowling together. However, I would respect them as a person, meaning I'm going to do my best to treat them like a human being. I won't draw up caricatures and put them in the newspaper. If we trusted everyone with a bight smile, we would be in big trouble because there are shady individuals out there who have no regard for your feelings.
Trust is precious and should be taken seriously. In terms of friendships, because of the people that have betrayed me, I am very cautious to whom I give my trust. I have criteria that must be passed before I share anything close to my heart. I purposely make it difficult to be my friend, let alone my best friend. You want to be careful with this because if you trust the wrong people, you're not the only one getting hurt. Those around you may too.
In closing, respect seems to have been a lost act/emotion. Constantly, I'm seeing social media posts that criticize presidential candidates for everything under the sun. People rant and rave, poke fun of and basically borderline bully not only those who help run our country, but those who hold onto principles that many deem stupid or old-fashioned. People scream for acceptance/equal rights, yet many still try to make those whose ideas are different or not "widely accepted" feel uncomfortable or threatened. If you really want "open mindedness" maybe we all should be towards EVERY opinion and point of view out there including the ones that are based on belief.
If we can respect the pouch (Capri Sun), we can respect each other no matter what office we hold or what belief system we are a part of.
I deserve respect just as much as a doctor, our president or your neighbor. Personally, I feel that when someone is in a position of authority or has gone to school studying a subject I don't know much about, I should respect them because of their knowledge. They don't have to earn respect for me to give it. I may not agree with everything that President Obama has done. I may not like some of my professors in college. I may not understand why my parents forced me to stay at a school they knew I hated. However, because they are in a place of authority, they should have respect. If you can't find it in your heart to respect the person, at the very least, respect the position. We 20 somethings don't understand the stress of what being a country leader brings. We don't understand what it takes to be in charge of a college campus. We have no idea what it's like to raise a teenager much less counsel someone our own age. There's a lot we don't know.
Trust on the other hand should be earned. If I handed out trust like I handed out respect, my soul and spirit would have been beaten severely; more so that it has already been. If I totaled my dad's car, I don't expect him to just hand me the keys to his new one. If a friend kissed my boyfriend, I'm not going to suggest we go bowling together. However, I would respect them as a person, meaning I'm going to do my best to treat them like a human being. I won't draw up caricatures and put them in the newspaper. If we trusted everyone with a bight smile, we would be in big trouble because there are shady individuals out there who have no regard for your feelings.
Trust is precious and should be taken seriously. In terms of friendships, because of the people that have betrayed me, I am very cautious to whom I give my trust. I have criteria that must be passed before I share anything close to my heart. I purposely make it difficult to be my friend, let alone my best friend. You want to be careful with this because if you trust the wrong people, you're not the only one getting hurt. Those around you may too.
In closing, respect seems to have been a lost act/emotion. Constantly, I'm seeing social media posts that criticize presidential candidates for everything under the sun. People rant and rave, poke fun of and basically borderline bully not only those who help run our country, but those who hold onto principles that many deem stupid or old-fashioned. People scream for acceptance/equal rights, yet many still try to make those whose ideas are different or not "widely accepted" feel uncomfortable or threatened. If you really want "open mindedness" maybe we all should be towards EVERY opinion and point of view out there including the ones that are based on belief.
If we can respect the pouch (Capri Sun), we can respect each other no matter what office we hold or what belief system we are a part of.
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