Just Because Your Choices Are Different Doesn't Mean They Are Wrong

"Never trust a man who doesn't drink because he's probably the self-righteous type who thinks he knows right from wrong all the time." This was spoken in a Supergirl episode a few weeks ago that I wanted to address.

Honestly, I don't understand this logic. Do you? What makes anyone think that the decision not to drink would mean that that person is self-righteous? It's like when someone gets mad about a choice to not swear. Or a choice not to have sex. It's just that, a choice. No one is telling you that you have to make the same choice. Who's forcing you to follow their lifestyle? Respect, though, should be shown.

Personally, when someone gets upset about things like this I begin to wonder if there is an underlying reason as to why. Maybe the cause for the emotion runs deep. Maybe they feel convicted. If that's the case, then maybe that person needs to think about their own choices. Are the choices you're making hurting others? Are they mean? Do they hurt you or someone else physically or emotionally?

The choices I make are to please God and gradually turn me into a better person. Following the crowd hasn't had much appeal to me for awhile now. Sure, I did things to get attention or to prove myself to be cool, but when I realized that what truly matters is how I view myself, my perspective and in turn, my choices changed.

So in conclusion, judging a person based on what they don't do is just as bad as judging someone based on what they look like or a religion they follow. We are free to make choices, you and me.

Faith

When General Lane asked Supergirl, "How do you know that General Non and his army won't betray you?" Supergirl answered with, "I don't, but I have faith." What an example!

After being back-stabbed and ignored by so many growing up, I found faith to be hard to find. Honestly, I don't have faith in a lot people but a select few. Even those who I had had faith in before have broken my trust and ruined what good we had. It takes a strong person to put that behind them and open up their hearts again. People who knew my past, where I came from and what I had been through were the ones who had hurt me the most. However, the struggle remains as I find faith again. I lose it, I gain it and I lose it again. Constant battle. I'm still timid when I meet others, especially ones who make an effort to get to know me, the real me. I'm cautious and wary of others. It's not until I feel 80% comfortable that I come out of my shell, just a little. Looking back, I've improved on how I handle meeting new people though, I still hold back everything I can until it feels right.

Faith is hard to hold onto never mind find, but one must embrace it and use it daily. Without faith, you end up a hermit trapped. That is not what God intended for us. We are created with emotions that crave others. I love the friends that I have and hope to continue building relationships as well as building myself. It's when you are happy with who you are is when faith starts to grow and you are able to build others up. :D

Another New Year Begins....What's Different This Time?

2016 is upon us and this is the time where we reflect and look within to make changes so that our future is better. To start off, 2015 had its ups and downs but I do not regret the major decisions I made such as leaving CT and moving to CO or taking the job at Aspen Camp. I loved my time there even when there were major annoyances. I had been wanting to move out on my own for quite some time, so moving away from the place I grew up to start over was definitely the right move. I feel more than ready to embark on my own and see what God has in store for me.

As much as I am grateful for what my parents have been to me and have down for me growing up, there comes a time where a child must leave. So being in CO has opened many possibilities and new friendships have been forged. I know that there will be many more.

Now as 2016 starts my desire is to find a place of work that allows me to be free to be me and help me grow in my writing. I'm still pursuing my dream of being a NY Times Bestseller and I refuse to give up on that. In 2015, I have published a short story inspired by a dear friend of mine and a research paper I co-authored with fellow Ithaca College classmates and professors.I know as I continue to write and send it to publishers I will be able to make my dream come true.

To make my 2016 better than my 2015, I want to be the friend I've always wanted, be the person I look up to and also be the one to speak my mind especially when something bothers me. For too long I've let people take an axe to my heart; no more. I will demand respect for my race, my disability and myself. Things are going to change for the better this year.

Have a Happy New Year!!!!!!!!

Choosing To Be Better

In last night's episode of Supergirl, there was a scene where Supergirl (without her powers) gets a robber to put down the gun by telling him that he needs to choose to be a better man. It is human to be selfish and step on others not caring about each others feelings in order to get what we want (Cat Grant), however we can choose who we are.

How true this is! Individually we have the power to choose to do good and be a positive influence instead of someone who winds up in jail. Let's put down the gun and do the best we can for ourselves, family and friends the right way.

DEAF CAN!!

Some of you may already know and be celebrating, however for those who are unaware Nyle DiMarco won America's Next Top Model this past Friday. The reason why this has got me all excited is because not only is he a gorgeous model, but he is also Deaf first.

Sadly, many people believe that the Deaf are stupid, can't do much on their own, can't drive, can't......and the list goes on all involving pity. We are not sorry to be Deaf, in fact we feel the opposite. We embrace it. We have our own community complete with a culture and language. Hearing people are looking at us from the outside in. It's not a bad thing to be Deaf. This fact took me a long time to realize and I'm so glad that God helped me find my niche within this unique world.

Back to Nyle, he did an amazing job and it would be like meeting my favorite celebrity if I ever got to give him a hug. So many obstacles stood before him and he knocked them all down. Similar to what President Barack Obama is for the African American community, Nyle has helped the hearing world see what DEAF CAN DO AND ACCOMPLISH! For this, I am just as proud of him as Tyra and his mama! :D

The rest of the Deaf community needs to follow suit and continue to strive for excellence at our chosen professions. Whatever you do, do your best! The world is watching.

You can watch the episodes here.