I really needed to post this because even though I'm a known cop show addict, this quote hit home and I think it's good "food for thought." However, I am behind on many shows so this quote is from last week's episode of the new show Rosewood.
For those who don't know what this show is about let me explain who Rosewood is and his "partner." Rosewood is a pathologist ( Medical Examiner) who's seriously good at his job. So good, he has billboards all over Miami and charges $7,000 per body. He's rich. He's also the kind of guy a girl would love to hate. He's annoying, but cute. He's always right and it nearly kills his partner to admit it every time. You know those types? Rosewood is a smart guy, but hides his illness to the point where he tries to cure himself. He has a heart condition and nerves in his hand that don't behave. He's constantly taking medicine and testing his blood. It's only a matter of time before he can't do anything to stop or even slow down the brokenness in his body.
Anyways, here is the quote that really got me thinking, "The list of things I can't do is a mile long, however the list of things I can do is a mile longer. And it's my job to never forget that."
There are quite of few things I can't do, but I don't let it deter me from chasing after things I can do. If I listened to all the people who told me I can't and just admitted defeat, I hardly doubt that I would be a college graduate. If Rosewood listened to the people who told him he can't do thins or that, I highly doubt he'd be a rich pathologist.
Get rid of the word 'can't' and replace it with 'can'.
Monday, October 12, 2015
Pregnancy
The whole #shoutmyabortion really is getting on my nerves because we've come so far from fundamental truths. Just because something is old fashioned, doesn't mean it's wrong or outdated. A new theory doesn't prove anything, right? Just because you call it a fetus, doesn't mean it's not living. Mr. Huxtable from the Cosby show made an excellent point when Rudy, his youngest, decided to stand on a chair and "fix" the grandfather clock. He asked her what she was doing and she explains that the clock was wrong. In her mind, the clock was wrong and her watch was right because the watch was newer. Now, we grown ups understand that just because a watch is new doesn't mean that it's right. The factory determines the time it is and it's up to you after you buy it to change it to the correct time. Little first grader Rudy, didn't know that. At the end of the conversation, Mr. Huxtable says, "Do you know that you are newer than me?.....But I run better than you." :)
Back to this abortion crisis. It just doesn't make sense that it would be ok for a woman to end her pregnancy. Just by saying that you have ended a pregnancy tells us that something had to begin, right? Basically, you are saying that these "mass of cells" had a beginning. Life. A tadpole is living, right? A cell, a single cell is living or dead, right? If one could see ultrasounds from beginning to end of any pregnancy, you'd see not only a human form but a beating heart. You see, the heart is one of the first parts of the body that is developed because as we all know, the heart is what keeps the body/child/fetus/person alive.
If the heart is beating, the "thing" is alive whether its an animal or human. Even cells have a nucleus that keeps it alive. (See, I did pay a little bit attention in high school science....). So, I'm not sure how you can justify that a human fetus isn't living. We all have cells and tissue from "fetushood" to death. Are they dead now? Are they alive? Cells that are on a slide held under a microscope. Are they dead or alive? Why?
http://scienceline.ucsb.edu/getkey.php?key=1903
Another interesting problem that has only recently come to my attention. I didn't even think about this being an issue until a CSI: Miami episode brought this up. In Florida, it's considered a double homicide when someone kills a pregnant woman......however it's not murder for a woman to kill her unborn child? Does that even make sense?!?! In Colorado, it's not considered a double homicide if someone kills a pregnant woman. I don't even have words to describe what I'm feeling.
Both of these topics deal with morals and if you don't have any, who's to say you can't or shouldn't do something? What's the point of right and wrong if you don't have a line between, right? What's the point of having morals? There's nothing wrong with having high morals, in fact, I believe that helps you stay out of trouble.
So, all of this has caused me to stop and think about not just what's wrong with this world and the majority of people in it, it seems, but also what can I do to help others see the truth. What can I do to help myself stay on the right path? People constantly fight with, "It's my body, I can do whatever I want with it!" Yes, it's your body. It's my body. I can make it go through trauma if I want. I can drive recklessly through the streets. I can throw myself out a window. I can get a tattoo causing pain and bleeding. I can also force my brain to study for the test. I can come up with cool ideas for my best friend's surprise birthday party. So many things I can do, but there are awful things and harmful things I can do too. Just because I can doesn't mean I should. I realize that getting drunk every night isn't good for my body. Abortions have harmful side effects and just like many pharmaceuticals, we tend to ignore them and focus on the positives. Is the risk worth it? Maybe. But there's always a choice. We are fortunate to live in a country where we are given so many choices. We have a choice on where to eat, what to eat, where to buy gas, what kind of car or house, what carrier for our phones, brands of clothes etc.
If I got pregnant unexpectedly, I have a choice. Some don't realize it, but we do. If I couldn't take care of little Ruthie Ruth, I could easily give her up for adoption. I know plenty of families who would love to have a child or another child. If I honestly had no extra money to take care of this child, I could still try. We may not be rich, but we'd both be alive. With help from family and friends, I could try. Killing a child, ending a pregnancy should never be an option and certainly not the only option. Everyone deserves a chance to live, everyone.
Back to this abortion crisis. It just doesn't make sense that it would be ok for a woman to end her pregnancy. Just by saying that you have ended a pregnancy tells us that something had to begin, right? Basically, you are saying that these "mass of cells" had a beginning. Life. A tadpole is living, right? A cell, a single cell is living or dead, right? If one could see ultrasounds from beginning to end of any pregnancy, you'd see not only a human form but a beating heart. You see, the heart is one of the first parts of the body that is developed because as we all know, the heart is what keeps the body/child/fetus/person alive.
If the heart is beating, the "thing" is alive whether its an animal or human. Even cells have a nucleus that keeps it alive. (See, I did pay a little bit attention in high school science....). So, I'm not sure how you can justify that a human fetus isn't living. We all have cells and tissue from "fetushood" to death. Are they dead now? Are they alive? Cells that are on a slide held under a microscope. Are they dead or alive? Why?
http://scienceline.ucsb.edu/getkey.php?key=1903
Another interesting problem that has only recently come to my attention. I didn't even think about this being an issue until a CSI: Miami episode brought this up. In Florida, it's considered a double homicide when someone kills a pregnant woman......however it's not murder for a woman to kill her unborn child? Does that even make sense?!?! In Colorado, it's not considered a double homicide if someone kills a pregnant woman. I don't even have words to describe what I'm feeling.
Both of these topics deal with morals and if you don't have any, who's to say you can't or shouldn't do something? What's the point of right and wrong if you don't have a line between, right? What's the point of having morals? There's nothing wrong with having high morals, in fact, I believe that helps you stay out of trouble.
So, all of this has caused me to stop and think about not just what's wrong with this world and the majority of people in it, it seems, but also what can I do to help others see the truth. What can I do to help myself stay on the right path? People constantly fight with, "It's my body, I can do whatever I want with it!" Yes, it's your body. It's my body. I can make it go through trauma if I want. I can drive recklessly through the streets. I can throw myself out a window. I can get a tattoo causing pain and bleeding. I can also force my brain to study for the test. I can come up with cool ideas for my best friend's surprise birthday party. So many things I can do, but there are awful things and harmful things I can do too. Just because I can doesn't mean I should. I realize that getting drunk every night isn't good for my body. Abortions have harmful side effects and just like many pharmaceuticals, we tend to ignore them and focus on the positives. Is the risk worth it? Maybe. But there's always a choice. We are fortunate to live in a country where we are given so many choices. We have a choice on where to eat, what to eat, where to buy gas, what kind of car or house, what carrier for our phones, brands of clothes etc.
If I got pregnant unexpectedly, I have a choice. Some don't realize it, but we do. If I couldn't take care of little Ruthie Ruth, I could easily give her up for adoption. I know plenty of families who would love to have a child or another child. If I honestly had no extra money to take care of this child, I could still try. We may not be rich, but we'd both be alive. With help from family and friends, I could try. Killing a child, ending a pregnancy should never be an option and certainly not the only option. Everyone deserves a chance to live, everyone.
Thursday, October 8, 2015
Don't Be a Face, Be a Force
Funny how in the span of two weeks, I've found quotes that spoke to me from the popular TV show NCIS: LA. Here is another one said by Kensi Blye, "Don't be a face, be a force." Basically, she was trying to convince her "client" be more than what she was seeing.
In the real world, how does that translate to our ordinary less than stellar lives? I believe each of us has a story. We were created for a reason, a specific reason. So for me when thinking about being a force not just a face, it means to be more than what's on the surface.
For years, I didn't let the real me surface just like Kensi's "client." (You'll see what I mean when you watch the episode). She had a dark past that she felt she needed to hide both for her safety and for her career as a model. In reality, who you are, your past included, is what makes you who you are. Without it, you'd be a weaker version of you. This wasn't easy for me by far! However, I have become a better girlfriend as well as a friend because of some of the things I went through.
Being more than just a face can be difficult especially when you've been severely hurt in the past, but it's way better than being superficial. You will never create meaning relationships that way. A force gives you the possibility of changing someone else's life as well. Being willing to put yourself out there, be in someone else's shoes, be sympathetic and empathetic can go a long way. Sometimes just sitting by the phone isn't enough, you have to physically be there, constantly offer to take their mind off the issue.
So be a force, not just a pretty face. You'll feel better and so will others around you. :)
In the real world, how does that translate to our ordinary less than stellar lives? I believe each of us has a story. We were created for a reason, a specific reason. So for me when thinking about being a force not just a face, it means to be more than what's on the surface.
For years, I didn't let the real me surface just like Kensi's "client." (You'll see what I mean when you watch the episode). She had a dark past that she felt she needed to hide both for her safety and for her career as a model. In reality, who you are, your past included, is what makes you who you are. Without it, you'd be a weaker version of you. This wasn't easy for me by far! However, I have become a better girlfriend as well as a friend because of some of the things I went through.
Being more than just a face can be difficult especially when you've been severely hurt in the past, but it's way better than being superficial. You will never create meaning relationships that way. A force gives you the possibility of changing someone else's life as well. Being willing to put yourself out there, be in someone else's shoes, be sympathetic and empathetic can go a long way. Sometimes just sitting by the phone isn't enough, you have to physically be there, constantly offer to take their mind off the issue.
So be a force, not just a pretty face. You'll feel better and so will others around you. :)
Monday, October 5, 2015
More Being, Less Doing
A quote from a recent episode of NCIS: LA really got me thinking. "More being, less doing," Sam Hanna said this to Kensi Blye. What does it mean?
For me, I instantly thought of being myself instead of forcing myself to be someone. Another way to look at it is if someone is trying to get a rise out of you or even when a friend is depressed, being is way better than doing. If you retaliate, you're going to get into trouble. If you spew whatever comes to your mind or you're constantly trying to force your friend to feel better, more often than not it won't work. So more being, less doing can do you a world of good.
Think about it.
For me, I instantly thought of being myself instead of forcing myself to be someone. Another way to look at it is if someone is trying to get a rise out of you or even when a friend is depressed, being is way better than doing. If you retaliate, you're going to get into trouble. If you spew whatever comes to your mind or you're constantly trying to force your friend to feel better, more often than not it won't work. So more being, less doing can do you a world of good.
Think about it.
Saturday, August 29, 2015
Kids
Is it my age? My face? My personality that makes people think I either have kids or want them? Well, the answer is no to both questions. A couple years ago, a mother of three rather wild kids asked me if I had kids and I shook me head. I proceeded to continue walked when she asked, "Do you want any?" A tired look crossed her face and I stifled a laugh and said, "Sorry, no thanks."
I have no idea what a mother faces with kids and I have no intention of finding out any time soon. I've babysat and worked camp jobs though out my teenager/20-something years and honestly, giving them back their parents is the GREATEST feeling ever. Seriously. Kids are only awesome for so long and after I've reached my limit....."Say goodnight, Peter Panda!"
Life the way it is for me now, I enjoy. I like not having to worry about who has my baby or do I have enough cash for the babysitter tonight? No, instead I get to go out with my friends for as long as I want, order pizza at 3am, date who I want, bring home junk food and not have to worry about child-proofing anything. THE LIFE!
If the time comes and God gives me children, I really hope me and my husband are.....sorta ready......instead of TOTALLY NOT READY! Yes, children are a blessing from the Lord, however, I do not want them. Thank you. So the next time someone asks me if I want their kids, my answer.....(in my head cause I'd never say this outloud)....I'm buying a bulldozer."
I have no idea what a mother faces with kids and I have no intention of finding out any time soon. I've babysat and worked camp jobs though out my teenager/20-something years and honestly, giving them back their parents is the GREATEST feeling ever. Seriously. Kids are only awesome for so long and after I've reached my limit....."Say goodnight, Peter Panda!"
Life the way it is for me now, I enjoy. I like not having to worry about who has my baby or do I have enough cash for the babysitter tonight? No, instead I get to go out with my friends for as long as I want, order pizza at 3am, date who I want, bring home junk food and not have to worry about child-proofing anything. THE LIFE!
If the time comes and God gives me children, I really hope me and my husband are.....sorta ready......instead of TOTALLY NOT READY! Yes, children are a blessing from the Lord, however, I do not want them. Thank you. So the next time someone asks me if I want their kids, my answer.....(in my head cause I'd never say this outloud)....I'm buying a bulldozer."
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