A quote from a recent episode of NCIS: LA really got me thinking. "More being, less doing," Sam Hanna said this to Kensi Blye. What does it mean?
For me, I instantly thought of being myself instead of forcing myself to be someone. Another way to look at it is if someone is trying to get a rise out of you or even when a friend is depressed, being is way better than doing. If you retaliate, you're going to get into trouble. If you spew whatever comes to your mind or you're constantly trying to force your friend to feel better, more often than not it won't work. So more being, less doing can do you a world of good.
Think about it.
Monday, October 5, 2015
Saturday, August 29, 2015
Kids
Is it my age? My face? My personality that makes people think I either have kids or want them? Well, the answer is no to both questions. A couple years ago, a mother of three rather wild kids asked me if I had kids and I shook me head. I proceeded to continue walked when she asked, "Do you want any?" A tired look crossed her face and I stifled a laugh and said, "Sorry, no thanks."
I have no idea what a mother faces with kids and I have no intention of finding out any time soon. I've babysat and worked camp jobs though out my teenager/20-something years and honestly, giving them back their parents is the GREATEST feeling ever. Seriously. Kids are only awesome for so long and after I've reached my limit....."Say goodnight, Peter Panda!"
Life the way it is for me now, I enjoy. I like not having to worry about who has my baby or do I have enough cash for the babysitter tonight? No, instead I get to go out with my friends for as long as I want, order pizza at 3am, date who I want, bring home junk food and not have to worry about child-proofing anything. THE LIFE!
If the time comes and God gives me children, I really hope me and my husband are.....sorta ready......instead of TOTALLY NOT READY! Yes, children are a blessing from the Lord, however, I do not want them. Thank you. So the next time someone asks me if I want their kids, my answer.....(in my head cause I'd never say this outloud)....I'm buying a bulldozer."
I have no idea what a mother faces with kids and I have no intention of finding out any time soon. I've babysat and worked camp jobs though out my teenager/20-something years and honestly, giving them back their parents is the GREATEST feeling ever. Seriously. Kids are only awesome for so long and after I've reached my limit....."Say goodnight, Peter Panda!"
Life the way it is for me now, I enjoy. I like not having to worry about who has my baby or do I have enough cash for the babysitter tonight? No, instead I get to go out with my friends for as long as I want, order pizza at 3am, date who I want, bring home junk food and not have to worry about child-proofing anything. THE LIFE!
If the time comes and God gives me children, I really hope me and my husband are.....sorta ready......instead of TOTALLY NOT READY! Yes, children are a blessing from the Lord, however, I do not want them. Thank you. So the next time someone asks me if I want their kids, my answer.....(in my head cause I'd never say this outloud)....I'm buying a bulldozer."
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
Rough Draft
It occurred to me, as I was viewing the majestic Rocky Mountains for the hundredth time, that if God were a human being creating all of that would have taken years. How in the world did He decide on all this? The placement of it all? The height/depth!? The colors!?!
I wonder if He had a rough draft first....?
We all know he created the mountains in a day/24 hour period. At the same time, how is that possible? We may never know......but I will continue to drink it in and be blissfully happy that I can enjoy it all :)
I wonder if He had a rough draft first....?
We all know he created the mountains in a day/24 hour period. At the same time, how is that possible? We may never know......but I will continue to drink it in and be blissfully happy that I can enjoy it all :)
Monday, June 22, 2015
Playing the Blame Game
This has been on my mind and heart for the past month or so. Social media is blowing up every two seconds about some scandal there or a conspiracy over there or a catastrophe here. A common thread I'm seeing through all this is blaming. Ever since Adam blamed Eve for his disobedience, humans have the tendency to blame each other for their actions. You know that phrase, "You reap what you sow"? Well, that statement continues to be true at every level.
1) If my boyfriend sleeps with my best friend while I'm away on vacation. Whose fault is that? Is it mine because I wasn't with my boyfriend at the time? It is right for my boyfriend to blame me for his act of defiance or whatever he chooses to call it?
2) If my husband leaves me for a prettier woman, is it my fault because I hadn't tried harder to be prettier?
3) If someone steals pharmaceuticals because the law has priced the item too high for them to be able to afford, who's fault is that?
4) If a person says, "I'm sorry, but I can't support your lifestyle/religious decision" and the person who feels wronged shoots the other person, who's at fault?
5) If a man thinks illicit thoughts about a woman because of how she is dressed, whose fault is it?
I could go on and on but I think I've touched on the most common ones I hear. We each, myself included, need to take a hard look at our actions and the motivation behind them. We as humans hate to be wrong, but sometimes we are wrong and we need to accept as well as change our attitude. Is it easy? NOPE! Will it take time? YES!
In each scenario the first person mentioned, with the exception of the last two, is the person who is wrong. In the fourth, the person who did the shooting is the one who made the wrong decision. Why? The first person has a right to an opinion. It is not right for the second person to destroy a person's life because of of it. In the fifth, it's both. Why? It's the man's duty to be mindful of what enters his mind. It's up to him not to dwell on dirty thoughts about a woman he sees. It's also the woman's duty to be mindful about what she wears. What a woman wears determines how a man treats them and also what kind of man she is trying to attract. Men are wired to desire what they see for the most part. Women are wired to desire what they feel for the most part. Each person needs to be aware of how they are perceived and dress accordingly. Otherwise, women will get attention they weren't looking for and men will fall into traps they didn't want to fall into.
Everyone is accountable for their actions. It's up to each of us to stop blaming each other and instead find ways to avoid the situation altogether. :)
1) If my boyfriend sleeps with my best friend while I'm away on vacation. Whose fault is that? Is it mine because I wasn't with my boyfriend at the time? It is right for my boyfriend to blame me for his act of defiance or whatever he chooses to call it?
2) If my husband leaves me for a prettier woman, is it my fault because I hadn't tried harder to be prettier?
3) If someone steals pharmaceuticals because the law has priced the item too high for them to be able to afford, who's fault is that?
4) If a person says, "I'm sorry, but I can't support your lifestyle/religious decision" and the person who feels wronged shoots the other person, who's at fault?
5) If a man thinks illicit thoughts about a woman because of how she is dressed, whose fault is it?
I could go on and on but I think I've touched on the most common ones I hear. We each, myself included, need to take a hard look at our actions and the motivation behind them. We as humans hate to be wrong, but sometimes we are wrong and we need to accept as well as change our attitude. Is it easy? NOPE! Will it take time? YES!
In each scenario the first person mentioned, with the exception of the last two, is the person who is wrong. In the fourth, the person who did the shooting is the one who made the wrong decision. Why? The first person has a right to an opinion. It is not right for the second person to destroy a person's life because of of it. In the fifth, it's both. Why? It's the man's duty to be mindful of what enters his mind. It's up to him not to dwell on dirty thoughts about a woman he sees. It's also the woman's duty to be mindful about what she wears. What a woman wears determines how a man treats them and also what kind of man she is trying to attract. Men are wired to desire what they see for the most part. Women are wired to desire what they feel for the most part. Each person needs to be aware of how they are perceived and dress accordingly. Otherwise, women will get attention they weren't looking for and men will fall into traps they didn't want to fall into.
Everyone is accountable for their actions. It's up to each of us to stop blaming each other and instead find ways to avoid the situation altogether. :)
Saturday, June 6, 2015
Opinions
I recently came upon a quote that embodies truth to its core and one that many seem to ignore.
"Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone's lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don't have to compromise convictions to be compassionate." Nor should you compromise in this instance.
Personally, this says it all. We each have opinions and just because we don't agree with someone's point of view, doesn't mean we hate them. Just like if someone doesn't think that the gay/transgender lifestyle is ok or right doesn't mean they are homophobic. That word seems to be thrown everywhere like the word racist. Take a step back and really evaluate, respect and listen to another person's view point. Homophobia or any phobia means that you are scared. Some may very well be scared for various reasons, but not everyone who disagrees with this in particular is a homophobic. This is called labeling. No one likes that.
We constantly keep screaming at people who don't believe what we do and that's not right. It's ok to have a difference of opinion. It bothers me so much when people spill their frustrations onto social media about tolerance when they themselves don't tolerate anyone who doesn't agree with them. This isn't just an "American problem" it's becoming a worldwide problem. There are countries out there that say "gay marriage is wrong," this doesn't give us or anyone else for that matter license to say nasty things about them. Same goes for any other statement that someone doesn't agree with.
Just wish all of us, myself included, would take a step back and realize that another opinion is ok. No matter what it is. Life will go on.
"Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone's lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don't have to compromise convictions to be compassionate." Nor should you compromise in this instance.
Personally, this says it all. We each have opinions and just because we don't agree with someone's point of view, doesn't mean we hate them. Just like if someone doesn't think that the gay/transgender lifestyle is ok or right doesn't mean they are homophobic. That word seems to be thrown everywhere like the word racist. Take a step back and really evaluate, respect and listen to another person's view point. Homophobia or any phobia means that you are scared. Some may very well be scared for various reasons, but not everyone who disagrees with this in particular is a homophobic. This is called labeling. No one likes that.
We constantly keep screaming at people who don't believe what we do and that's not right. It's ok to have a difference of opinion. It bothers me so much when people spill their frustrations onto social media about tolerance when they themselves don't tolerate anyone who doesn't agree with them. This isn't just an "American problem" it's becoming a worldwide problem. There are countries out there that say "gay marriage is wrong," this doesn't give us or anyone else for that matter license to say nasty things about them. Same goes for any other statement that someone doesn't agree with.
Just wish all of us, myself included, would take a step back and realize that another opinion is ok. No matter what it is. Life will go on.
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