"Don't let a bad situation define you."
Ellie Bishop said this in an episode of NCIS and it never hurts to think about what you could learn from your situation. Whenever someone says, "Well, I grew up with an abusive father so that's why I beat up on people." NO! I realize that our parents' "sins" can very often follow the child like a dark cloud, but it's up to us as individuals to change the narrative. I hate it when my dad yells at me (which is far between but it happens) because of that I do my ultimate best not to yell at anyone because I know what it's like being on the other side of that. So for others to say that their parents do it so it's ok for them is NOT OK!
The point Ellie and I are trying to make is that there will be bad situations but we need to overcome them and be who we are called to be. I'm not going to let anyone change me and sadly it took me awhile to realize that. I struggled with who I was because I was trying to be everyone else but me. I didn't stop trying to hide myself till halfway through high school when I noticed that no matter how hard I tried, many didn't want anything to do with me. (Even more depressing, when I finally was myself they still didn't like me). So the lesson I learned there was that if people don't like you for who you are, they aren't worth smack. Leave them and that's what I did.
I want to encourage you all reading this to let go of bad situations and focus on the positives. Be yourself. Be compassionate. Be loving. Be funny. Don't let those bullies, your parents, your "friends" or your bf/gf hold you back. I remember being the person who's self confidence came from how many people came to my birthday party. It's stupid. Growing up, I've had MANY MANY MANY bad situations between being an African American and having a disability, it's been rough. However, through many awesome people that have graced my presence helped me embrace what I'm talented at and encouraged me to keep at it no matter what. I will always be grateful for them and look forward to many more years with them.
Monday, November 30, 2015
Thursday, November 26, 2015
Running Scared
People all over social media are slamming governors and individuals for taking a stand against the U.S taking in Syrian refugees. While I can understand why we shouldn't turn people away who need help, the basis for our fear isn't unfounded. I can see why many are scared and I myself am a little apprehensive about it all because how easy we will make it for those with ulterior motives to come inside our borders. Will we only accept orphans and women? Are we safeguarding ourselves while helping others? There's a lot to think about when the U.S is the target of many malicious groups. There are people who will take advantage of our country's kindness. It could be many Americans are afraid that these refugees are a part of a terrorist cell or maybe someone will pose as a refugee in order to gain access into this country. (Middle Eastern countries have used children as soldiers.)
If we take this situation in simple terms and ask, "Should I help my friend who has had a history of violence towards other people? or "Should I help my friend who has friends who have hurt me before?" While many will ask right back, "What would Jesus do?" I think we as humans should also safeguard our hearts.I do think that Jesus would help this friend as well as the refugees from Syria. He helped the lepers, the children, the lame, the weak, the blind, the sick and so on so forth. We have no idea what the future holds, but if we don't help these people without homes, who will? Will it become, "So and So will help them." Well, if everyone said that....who will actually help?
This is not easy and I wish everyone would stop and think before putting down another for their reasons as to why they don't want to help. I only hope that the U.S doesn't look back and say, "I wish we never let these people in."
Just somethings to think about. Look at it from all sides before picking a fight.
An article to read.
If we take this situation in simple terms and ask, "Should I help my friend who has had a history of violence towards other people? or "Should I help my friend who has friends who have hurt me before?" While many will ask right back, "What would Jesus do?" I think we as humans should also safeguard our hearts.I do think that Jesus would help this friend as well as the refugees from Syria. He helped the lepers, the children, the lame, the weak, the blind, the sick and so on so forth. We have no idea what the future holds, but if we don't help these people without homes, who will? Will it become, "So and So will help them." Well, if everyone said that....who will actually help?
This is not easy and I wish everyone would stop and think before putting down another for their reasons as to why they don't want to help. I only hope that the U.S doesn't look back and say, "I wish we never let these people in."
Just somethings to think about. Look at it from all sides before picking a fight.
An article to read.
Monday, November 23, 2015
What Death Can Do
I don't know if you've noticed but when someone dies, especially someone close to you, one tends to take a step back and look at their life and I mean really take a close look at it.
Last week, I watched an episode of Nashville where Juliet drunk/wasted/high climbed up onto the roof of her hotel. Negative thoughts were going through her mind. Her husband just gave me divorce papers, her manager said she was a "waste" and she had no friends. For those who don't know the show or the story line, Juliet is a country/pop singer who has toured all over the place. Her life is nothing close to glamorous but her paperazi and fans think so. She married Avery, a music producer, and had a child with him. Whenever she is in town, she'd rather talk to Avery than her newborn daughter. Avery, being a good father wanted her to spend time with both of them. Soon, she withdrew and changed her number without telling him. Her manager has a reputation of not caring about anyone but rather the bottom line and how his name can be heard/known. He is also has a history with Juliet that is anything but pleasant.
Fast forward to this episode, she tries to kill her self but her manager sees what she is trying to do and as he saves her, he plunges to his death. Being drunk and so out of it, she somehow gets to her room and falls asleep. When the police wake her the next morning to tell her the news, she has no idea what happened last night so she tells them she fell asleep early.
Towards the end of this episode, Juliet's mind finally pulls out the memory of what happened and she goes to a clinic to get help with her drug, alcohol and other problems she's been having but chose to ignore. It took her realizing that her horrible daily choices killed someone for her to realize she needed help. This happens all the time and I wish people would realize that they don't live in a bubble much less a vacuum. Their choices, my choices effect others. It's up to us to discern for ourselves what might the consequences be (good and bad) if we do something.
I'm happy to say that someone did see the entire thing that night and hopefully in the coming episodes, the police will find out the truth.
Last week, I watched an episode of Nashville where Juliet drunk/wasted/high climbed up onto the roof of her hotel. Negative thoughts were going through her mind. Her husband just gave me divorce papers, her manager said she was a "waste" and she had no friends. For those who don't know the show or the story line, Juliet is a country/pop singer who has toured all over the place. Her life is nothing close to glamorous but her paperazi and fans think so. She married Avery, a music producer, and had a child with him. Whenever she is in town, she'd rather talk to Avery than her newborn daughter. Avery, being a good father wanted her to spend time with both of them. Soon, she withdrew and changed her number without telling him. Her manager has a reputation of not caring about anyone but rather the bottom line and how his name can be heard/known. He is also has a history with Juliet that is anything but pleasant.
Fast forward to this episode, she tries to kill her self but her manager sees what she is trying to do and as he saves her, he plunges to his death. Being drunk and so out of it, she somehow gets to her room and falls asleep. When the police wake her the next morning to tell her the news, she has no idea what happened last night so she tells them she fell asleep early.
Towards the end of this episode, Juliet's mind finally pulls out the memory of what happened and she goes to a clinic to get help with her drug, alcohol and other problems she's been having but chose to ignore. It took her realizing that her horrible daily choices killed someone for her to realize she needed help. This happens all the time and I wish people would realize that they don't live in a bubble much less a vacuum. Their choices, my choices effect others. It's up to us to discern for ourselves what might the consequences be (good and bad) if we do something.
I'm happy to say that someone did see the entire thing that night and hopefully in the coming episodes, the police will find out the truth.
Friday, November 20, 2015
Signing on TV!
Friday, November 6, 2015
Accepting Help
Kara aka Supergirl, told James a very profound truth. "Accepting help is an honor." This is what she was taught on her home planet of Krypton. Her words got me thinking. It not only helped James in his dilemma in trying to be a man but it also helped me in my dilemmas of life.
Since graduation, I've wanted to be independent. At this point on my life, I thought I would have my own apartment and wouldn't need my Dad to cover anything or at least less than what's he's been doing. I'm tired of needing help or asking for it. However, I can't do life any kind of life on my own entirely. I still need others' help in order to further my career, become a better writer, understand new technology/computer programs and become a NY Times Bestseller. I will always need an editor.
Being a grown up "woman" post grad, accepting help isn't really a horrible thing I made it out to be. Though, I will never stop striving to be independent without someone carrying me. One of the reasons why I don't even want to think about getting married because I want to stand on my own. Forge my own path. Pay my own bills. Nothing wrong with that of course. On the other hand, I (we) need to understand that even being on our own we will encounter struggles. No one was made to live life alone. God himself specifically created Eve to be with Adam for companionship. Independence and knowing I will have someone I can lean on or go to for help should be the goal instead of solely facing the demons of life.
Someday my day will come full of friends I can relate to, a job I'm happy with in my career and bills paid in full ON MY OWN. :)
Since graduation, I've wanted to be independent. At this point on my life, I thought I would have my own apartment and wouldn't need my Dad to cover anything or at least less than what's he's been doing. I'm tired of needing help or asking for it. However, I can't do life any kind of life on my own entirely. I still need others' help in order to further my career, become a better writer, understand new technology/computer programs and become a NY Times Bestseller. I will always need an editor.
Being a grown up "woman" post grad, accepting help isn't really a horrible thing I made it out to be. Though, I will never stop striving to be independent without someone carrying me. One of the reasons why I don't even want to think about getting married because I want to stand on my own. Forge my own path. Pay my own bills. Nothing wrong with that of course. On the other hand, I (we) need to understand that even being on our own we will encounter struggles. No one was made to live life alone. God himself specifically created Eve to be with Adam for companionship. Independence and knowing I will have someone I can lean on or go to for help should be the goal instead of solely facing the demons of life.
Someday my day will come full of friends I can relate to, a job I'm happy with in my career and bills paid in full ON MY OWN. :)
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